CONQUERING YOURSELF : Is it necessary?

Everyone has the potential to be great. We don’t always achieve that pinnacle. Our fates can be changed by our perspectives on life’s difficulties and situational conditions.

So, how can you alter this mindset? What steps do you take to win? Conquer yourself, I’ll tell you.

Before we get into the “how to’s,” it’s critical to first define who we are. You are your own self.

The self is made up of your outlook, attitudes, emotions, temperament, mental and physical well-being, conscious and subconscious thoughts.

Everything we desire: success, pleasure, fame, and so on, is on the other side of this plane. However, reaching the summit necessitates a significant amount of effort and discipline.

The mind dominance is a vital component in self-conquest.

Control your mind first, then your emotions, your attitudes, and finally your thoughts. That’s when life becomes MEAT

Now that we’ve grasped this, let the digging commence.


The mind, being its own place, has the ability to create a Heaven of Hell and a Hell of Haven.

Whether you like it or not, your mind can be a loyal servant or a dangerous master. But, exactly, what is the mind? The mind functions as a conduit, a sort of host for our consciousness, thoughts, and emotions.

You may compare it to the mitochondria of plants, depending on how and what you feed it.

Here are some tips on how to master your mind.

1. Stop second-guessing yourself

“Overthinking destroys you.” It completely destabilizes the situation. It also turns everything upside down. It causes you to be concerned. It exaggerates the severity of the situation” — Karen Salmansohn

As a former victim, I understand how difficult this is to stop.

Your imagination is always conjuring up images of things, causing you to be extremely stressed.

One thing you can do is make the present more alive.

Overthinkers have a common trait: they live in the past and future.

As an example: Imagine you’re on stage and you make a blunder. You’re a cautious person by nature.

Your blunder creates a ruckus. The audience laughs at you. In your brain, this has a ripple effect.Not only did you make a mistake, but others noticed it as well.

Your mind starts working to persuade you not to go on stage. You start to think to yourself, “Perhaps I’m not cut out for the stage after all.” If I return, I will fail again, and everyone will laugh at me.”

You’re done at this point, and anxiety sets in. Your self-esteem deteriorates.

But here’s the thing: nobody cares. The images you make up in your mind aren’t accurate. The folks who mocked you have completely forgotten about it. Who cares if some people remember? Nobody is impervious to failure. Why not take just take a leap?


I don’t want to be ruled by my feelings. I want to take advantage of them, pleasure them, and dominate them — Oscar Wilde

Emotions are a natural element of human nature, but they must be tamed. Different emotions cause us to react and behave in different ways.

Emotions come in a variety of forms. They come in a variety of colors, from happiness to grief to disgust.

Our behavioural, physiological, and subjective responses are all controlled by them.

Consider the following scenario: You can lash out at someone else when you’re angry (behavioural response).

You could get chilly feet from the churns if you’re afraid (physiological response).

You may become depressed if you are sad(subjective response). So, how can you master your feelings?

1. Take a breather

I believe that this is easier stated than done. The optimum thing to do in the heat of the moment is to react, and unfortunately, this is generally in a bad way.

I don’t know about you, but I’ve lost track of the number of times I’ve responded to something and strained a connection. My response would have been better if I had taken a second to pause, consider my response and the person. That relationship would have been saved if it had been up to me.

So, at times of unfavorable emotional transactions, I’m advising you to take a breather and think. Keep your lips still. You may come to regret it. Your adrenaline will be calmed if you take a break. It serves to keep you grounded in reality.

2. Look at the person, not the emotion

Humans are emotional beings. That is not to say that outbursts are acceptable. Understand your emotions at times of despair, anger, and joy. Recognize the source. You’ll be able to regulate your outbursts this way.

Consider how you would feel if you were this guy you’re ranting at furiously. Even if you don’t want it to happen, try flipping the tables for a second. These types of questions keep you in check.


The greatest revelation of all time is that a person’s future may be changed just by altering their attitude.” — Marie Osmond

People differ from one another. Our differences are even more pronounced when it comes to our mindsets. Children, more often than not, bore attitudes because of their emotions.

For instance, you’ve been arguing with someone. You are avoiding the person but you’re sick of running. You get the person a gift to make things right. The guy is overjoyed.

Immediately, the person’s attitude toward you changes. It shifted with the emotional shift at the time.

You will master your attitudes if you master your emotions.


Louise Hay, a reknowned author was said: “Every thinking we have has an impact on our future.”

Thoughts are mental pathways. They are basically mental cognitions about ourselves and the universe in general, spanning from our thoughts, views, and beliefs.

Since thoughts are this powerful, it is a good idea to dweel on the positives ans nip the negatives.

So, how can you get rid of your unpleasant thoughts? Just two words: Cognitive Reappraisal

It entails identifying the negative pattern that your thoughts have slipped into and replacing it with a more effective pattern.

A personal example: I got delayed in a traffic bottleneck. That morning, I had a test. Anxiety, dread, and annoyance flooded in. Negative thoughts were my friends during my panic attacks… Things like “What if I’m not allowed to enter the hall” came to mind. I began to forget what I had just read.

On the other hand, if I had utilized this psychological concept, my thoughts would have changed to: “Life happens. You had no control over this event. Concentrate on getting to your destination”. An entire new perspective.

I believe it is important for every individual to fight their demons. Regardless, there’s one thing I have to say: Self-conquest does not imply self-pity, narcissism, or anything in between. No! You’re only attempting to improve yourself. Attempting to build relationships. Attempting to add new heights.

If you’re in on doing this, take it slowly. You will arrive at your goal.

Thank you for taking the time to read this!

See ya.



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